Had to put my cat down, he was my bebs as much as my dog

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Wed Dec 30, 2020 11:49 pm

Missing my feline bebs; we put him down a few days ago.

Maximus was a larger tuxedo cat with marbled orange, red, and yellow jacket, with pink pads and nose, yeller eyes. He was my mom's cat, but when my sister moved out of state, her cat Levi came to live with us and bonded to my mom; Max gave me some of his attention. They were buds with Max the dominant, and he was cool with my dog, Mei, and liked to walk under her and ravish her chin with his tail. Recently Mei must have known he was getting weaker, cause she allowed him to push her head outta her bowl and eat some of her kibble, definitely not the normal.

He rotated his sleeping spots all over the house, but I liked it when he'd sleep on my bed and I could drowse to his purring. I did not like when he'd attack my legs if I bumped him while we were sleeping, and did not hold back on kicking him off if he started biting.

Miss the guy.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Thu Dec 31, 2020 12:19 am

max in the box and max and mei on my bed

Post by **herbalhippie** » Thu Dec 31, 2020 12:41 am

I'm so sorry. It's so hard when it's time for a fur baby to pass.

Post by **Quercus** » Thu Dec 31, 2020 3:40 pm

Aw, I'm so sorry to hear this. What an awful way to end an awful year, losing your buddy. Max was certainly beautiful, I'm not sure I've ever seen a ginger kitty with that marble pattern. He sounds like he was pretty feisty and full of personality! I am not at all surprised to hear that he was the alpha cat, you can see it in his sweet face! Many hugs to you and Mei, who sounds like a great dog. I bet he misses Max, too.

Post by **instantKARMA** » Thu Dec 31, 2020 8:05 pm

So sorry to hear about your loss. I've been there with my dog Max a long time back. Making
that decision is one of the most difficult decisions I've ever had to make and I'm sure it was for
you too!

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Thu Dec 31, 2020 8:24 pm

cruisin

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Thu Dec 31, 2020 8:34 pm

Thanks, your comments pull off some of the grief. I am dreading having to put Mei down. We are moving houses probably in late Feb/early March, and it's weird that I wonder if she'll be alive for the move. I am noticing some resentment toward her, trying to love and like her less so I won't lose as much, but that'll only make it hurt more. I guess what chases that out of my mind is when I have to dig her poop out several times a day and express her bladder, putting on her harness which helps her walk; these are crummy things, but blessings in disguise. I miss having to pick up her poop on walks, she can't poop on her own, lol.

Post by **Quercus** » Thu Dec 31, 2020 8:34 pm

What a sweetie! He's making sure that none of your important papers take off on their own!

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Thu Dec 31, 2020 8:38 pm

Quercus wrote:What a sweetie! He's making sure that none of your important papers take off on their own!

if he had opposable thumbs, i'm sure he'd use them to mix up some papers on purpose and give me a 'i'm just a kitten' look

Post by **MikeEdoessomething** » Thu Dec 31, 2020 9:15 pm

Sorry, these are such hard things to do.

My dog is around 10. I rescued her from a shelter when she was 1. She's a lab mix, the shelter said possibly a lab/greyhound mix. The shelter didn't have much information on her besides that she was abused in some way, though unsure how (To this day she hates going outside, she runs out and does her business and zips back inside... I wish she would let me take her for a walk). I got her when I was 25, and I'm 34 now, and shortly after I got her I started having health issues and spent the next few years in chronic fatigue and pain. Well she kept me sane

But yeah, I'm dreading just thinking about the day I will have to do this. Sorry you're going through it.

2020 sucks!! Wishing you peaceful thoughts and a happy new year

Post by **INSENSE3** » Fri Jan 01, 2021 9:44 pm

So so so sorry for your loss, @IndelibleDotInk! I’m still mourning the loss of my Tabookitty and he’s been gone since 2013! I had him on a leash with me for 17 wonderful years! The stories are endless...! There is no shortcut to grieving less after the unconditional love and sweetness from our pets. I’m not able to keep a pet safely at this time - where I live has room for only my mom’s dog (she is obsessing his mortality and has been trying to prepare for it, emotionally, for almost his entire life)! He’s a purebred shi tzu {chit zoo} and had health problems from puppy mills (he was a gift for Christmas, 16 years ago). He still has bad days and some good days (sort of like me and many kratom enthusiasts). Having no room for a cat or dog helped create my side business of pet sitting and I just finished up staying with a dog and 3 calicos. I really enjoy other people’s pets and I get photo updates from the pets each Christmas!

Back to YOUR loss. I hope you have minimal grief and suffering the loss of such a special influence of your every day life. Thank you for sharing some of the memories you can keep always!

Virtual hugs,

Laurie

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Tue Jan 19, 2021 10:07 pm

INSENSE3 wrote:So so so sorry for your loss, @IndelibleDotInk! I’m still mourning the loss of my Tabookitty and he’s been gone since 2013! I had him on a leash with me for 17 wonderful years! The stories are endless...! There is no shortcut to grieving less after the unconditional love and sweetness from our pets. I’m not able to keep a pet safely at this time - where I live has room for only my mom’s dog (she is obsessing his mortality and has been trying to prepare for it, emotionally, for almost his entire life)! He’s a purebred shi tzu {chit zoo} and had health problems from puppy mills (he was a gift for Christmas, 16 years ago). He still has bad days and some good days (sort of like me and many kratom enthusiasts). Having no room for a cat or dog helped create my side business of pet sitting and I just finished up staying with a dog and 3 calicos. I really enjoy other people’s pets and I get photo updates from the pets each Christmas!

Back to YOUR loss. I hope you have minimal grief and suffering the loss of such a special influence of your every day life. Thank you for sharing some of the memories you can keep always!

Virtual hugs,

Laurie

Love some cats on leashes!

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Tue Jan 19, 2021 10:20 pm

My dog was trained in K9 nosework, a newer sport where the dog is released in a specific area (room, car, outdoor location, etc.) and find an object or place which has been scented with birch, clove, or anise oil.

They are trained like drug and bomb detection dogs, with food and toys. At one training we went to, we had a police officer hide a gram of meth, and his k9 officer went and searched for it, and found it.

So at home, I'd just hide a bunch of single kibbles in order not to scent mark the whole apt. with herbal oils, it would get confusing with all the conflicting smells. Mei loved using her sniffer to do this, it really exercised and stimulated her in a unique way. She was excellent at it.

But this is a post about my cat Max. Max was really sharp and realized Mei was searching for food when I gave the ok and she started to sniff the air. So he'd always get up and start sniffing too, racing to find the kibbles before Mei could get them. He found at least a few on every run we did. It was neat how he sniffed the air like a dog and his sense was so acute, able to play against a dog. <3

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Tue Jan 19, 2021 11:16 pm

Max max.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Wed Jan 20, 2021 12:08 am

UFC striker Maximus vs grappler Levi

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Wed Jan 20, 2021 12:10 am

handsome

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Wed Jan 20, 2021 12:10 am

tucked away

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Wed Jan 20, 2021 12:11 am

catpole and shelves up to the lofted ceiling

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Wed Jan 20, 2021 12:12 am

ZZZZzzzzz

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Wed Jan 20, 2021 12:13 am

Waiting for dinner

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Wed Jan 20, 2021 12:13 am

Miss my bebses Max and Mei.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Wed Jan 20, 2021 5:21 pm

From the haiku thread:

When Max was alive
the cat liked to bite my chin
no more bloody beard

I'd pick him up, flip him over, and rub my chin on his head, which elicited a loud prrrrrr. Then he'd try to bite my chin with his incisors.

Post by **INSENSE3** » Wed Jan 20, 2021 5:28 pm

Mom and I had to surrender her dog, Teddy last week. Actually two Saturday’s ago. That was awful. Remind me not to get a pet of my own again. I am a pet sitter and have a fine time of enjoying other people’s pets!

I cried the night before when Mom’s dog actually said goodbye to me. It was blatantly obvious and I cried and cried (now I knit not an a&&hole who can’t cry. I wasn’t sure).

I loved looking at these photos! My neighbors have a cat who has his meals here and he has a crush on me. Big time. But when I was gone this past weekend, he knew I had told Mom to feed him. He had to walk around to the back of the house and MEOW SUPER LOUD (mom is hard of hearing) to get her out of bed! That got him his breakfast! Haha. I brought it up because he is an orange cat like your Max. HUGE cat. I cannot pick him up! I can only pick up the front half or the back half! Haha

I miss your Max, too.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Wed Jan 20, 2021 5:41 pm

Is Teddy haunting you or your mom? I don't see any evidence that Mei is still around, but I'm not sure. The floor of our apt was too slick for Mei's paws, so everything was covered with yoga mats and rugs.. now some of them have been put away and the apartment's sounds are louder. The sounds of her life echo in an empty living space, but not sadly. Maximus has departed the world for another destination, probably to get it ready for Mei to join. He knows my mom's cat Levi will be around, lol, in fact now Levi is getting my (unwanted) attention (except for feeding). The buggah is just meow meow meow, feed me human, now! But if we overfeed him by just one kibble, he barfs. He also barfs when fed a mix of different foods. Oh well, now he is the recipient of my scratches. He often purrs but gets irritated at the same time when I give him attention. Weirdo.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Sat Jan 23, 2021 11:07 pm

more pics of Maximus

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Mon Jan 25, 2021 6:56 am

yin and yang

Post by **Quercus** » Tue Jan 26, 2021 9:37 pm

These photos of Max are terrific, especially the ones where he's interacting with Mei and Levi. I noticed that the photo of Max and Mei sleeping on your bed didn't show any room for you. As their loving human, I assume you slept on the floor?

Post by **INSENSE3** » Thu Jan 28, 2021 2:16 am

Obviously! Of course the human got the floor! Duh! LOL

Our Teddy DID haunt us last night! I always wished Tabookitty would visit again (my cat cat from 1997-2013) would shadow me or something. Nuthin. I still have his sealed box of ashes. So my mom’s phone started jamming a U2 song (not a favorite) and it was LOUD, after we both got in our beds. Right about the time that dog would have been herding us all to bed. Or telling us to stop with the lights. It sure seemed like a “sign” of some kind.

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Thu Jan 28, 2021 2:31 am

Quercus wrote:These photos of Max are terrific, especially the ones where he's interacting with Mei and Levi. I noticed that the photo of Max and Mei sleeping on your bed didn't show any room for you. As their loving human, I assume you slept on the floor?

Luckily Max would move toward the foot of the bed to give me some space, lol. And he'd rotate sleeping all over the house.

He liked to wake me up on occasion, by licking my eyelids. As time went by, he switched to very very wet licks to my cheek.

Post by **INSENSE3** » Thu Jan 28, 2021 3:36 pm

Awwww

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Thu Jan 28, 2021 4:02 pm

INSENSE3 wrote:Awwww

Do you have photos of your clients already uploaded?

My neighbor offered to let me walk / spend time with her dog. I think I'll take her up on it, but I need a little more time to grieve for Mei, I don't want to feel like I'm being disloyal to her and ignoring the memory of her.

Post by **INSENSE3** » Fri Jan 29, 2021 4:43 pm

Yes I have photos of my clients. They become part of my life like any other valued baby...

Post by **INSENSE3** » Fri Jan 29, 2021 4:46 pm

Testing....here is a client... testing

Post by **INSENSE3** » Fri Jan 29, 2021 4:57 pm

Actually the chair photo was too large. The photo in the above post is actually Bella’s sister, Pippurr.

I’ll try adding a few pix in one post fingers crossed (that didn’t work). I may have added Foxy on her dog bed..

Post by **INSENSE3** » Fri Jan 29, 2021 5:21 pm

Not having any luck with posting animal photos. I’m sure I’m just doing it wrong...lol

Foxy is a favorite client, she has 3 calico cats!

https://i.postimg.cc/Y9DxX959/9-EF5-A46 ... 6666-E.jpg

Post by **INSENSE3** » Fri Jan 29, 2021 5:25 pm

Aaack, that killed an hour and a half, lol. Poof * GONE *

Too bad I’m so inept, the pugs are pretty photogenic

Post by **IndelibleDotInk** » Fri Jan 29, 2021 9:10 pm

lol, Teddy's pic was up! He looks perfect lap size.

Post by **INSENSE3** » Fri Jan 29, 2021 11:41 pm

Yes, he’s the sweet boy who just left us. Week 3 ...

Here is one of the pugs. The two of them inspired my pet sitting journey...

Post by **INSENSE3** » Fri Jan 29, 2021 11:49 pm

Ah well... I am trying alternative photos periodically.

The pugs did start it all. You can look at just about any photo of pugs to get how they look.

They do look different once you have spent time with their crazy personalities.

We lost one of em also. Cancer. The new one was absolutely necessary for the remaining pug. He was lost in depression without the alpha pug. He needs another pug to be alpha, so they got him a new one for Christmas!

I’ll be spending June with them while the parents do a big trip to Africa. If COVID is not blocking travel altogether like last year’s trip. They wanna travel before one of them cannot - Parkinson’s.

Post by **INSENSE3** » Fri Jan 29, 2021 11:52 pm

Maybe this will work

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